Hey lovelies ! I hope you’re all doing well.

Today, I just wanted to share a quick message. So I was in my kitchen (as usual), and I was thinking about how it’s very easy to let everything overwhelm you and get on the inside. I’m someone who’s a very big over thinker, and a small thought can spiral. And negative thoughts can stem, and turn into negative words I speak about my situation and myself. It doesn’t even have to be negative per-se, but just not speaking positive things on your life.

However, I had to think back to the fact I can choose to speak positive over my life. The bible tells us that life and death are in the power of the tongue. (Proverbs 18:21), Showing us, you can either speak positive over your life, or you can speak negative over your life. In psychology there’s a theory called self-fulfilling prophecy, where someone can become something just because they spoke about it. For example, if a teacher constantly tells a student, you’ll never amount to anything, that student can internalise that and unknowingly become what was spoken about them, because they believe it themselves.

This is not always the case, as you can choose not to be the negative things spoken about you. Thoughts do come, and those feelings that “maybe I’m not good enough. Maybe everything isn’t going to be okay. Maybe it won’t work out. Maybe it’ll fail”, you have to fight those with positive thoughts.

Always say this, and it may sound repetitive, but I have to daily remind myself this. But you can’t control what is out of your control. I can’t control if it rains tomorrow. But I can control whether or not I decide to take a raincoat when I see the rain outside. We can’t control what’s going on in the world, but we can only do what we can do.

This leads me to perspective. I can choose to sulk about the rain, and to complain and to get angry. Or, I could see it as natural, nature watering the flowers outside so you don’t have to, an excuse for you to stay inside and have a movie day instead.

I used to think of myself as idealistic and someone who is a bit too “positive thinking”, and sometimes I can’t try find the positive in everything. However, I realised that maybe there’s a need for someone like me to help people find a positive way of looking at things. Or just a different perspective, or a lesson to be learnt.

I’ll be real with you guys. When this whole lockdown thing started, even when I was abroad. I was really, just down. It had me right in a funk, I just was feeling quite low about it all. But I had to remind myself that I can get to choose how I take this time. And that wasn’t easy, I also had to get others to encourage me and to say, look at it this way. Through all that I did realise that yeah, I do have a choice. One thing no one can ever take away from you is your ability to choose. God Himself didn’t even take away that from us, He gave us that. So instead of looking at it like “I’m stuck inside. And I’m sad and everything is just rubbish”, I thought okay. Maybe I can spend more time praying, writing, catching up with friends. I can choose to help a neighbour or finally have time to sleep-in.

And it’s not always easy reminding yourself to try see the positive. Sometimes it’s so difficult. But. Just remember, you have your choice in how you see things, and how you perceive. And how you speak over your life. Even if it’s just “the morning didn’t start well, but it doesn’t have to define the rest of my day”.

So yeah! Today I just wanted to remind not only you, but myself – that speak positive over yourself. You can how you want to see your situation and choose to see a positive or something you can learn from in all.

Thank you so much! Stay safe. God belss

~ peace , joy & love x

tk