Establishing healthy boundaries [It’s okay to say no!]

Good evening ! It’s nearly Friday and I can’t wait to just sleep !

I wanted to talk about boundaries. As a Christian sometimes I feel like I have to say yes all the time. And be available for everything and everyone all the time. I wondered what the word of God says about this, because I know we have to support one another and love one another and look after each other as a body of Christ. But is there a line we can draw?

Let’s take a look in the bible ! (This makes me sound like a children story book reader – let’s take a look in the Big Book!)

Anyway! Back to seriousness now- (oh and by the way, Christians. Let’s remember we can laugh sometimes, we don’t have to be serious all the time. Sometimes let’s take time to laugh and be Merry, and have joy!)

Okay seriously Tadi, back to the point of boundaries ..

In the bible there was a time where Jesus wanted to go to be alone in the mountains , when He found out John had been killed. So Jesus wanted to take time for Himself , maybe to grieve, maybe to pray but people followed Him!

When Jesus heard it, He withdrew from there privately in a boat to a solitary place. But when the crowds heard of it, they followed Him [by land] on foot from the towns. When He went ashore and saw a great throng of people, He had compassion (pity and deep sympathy) for them and cured their sick.”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭14:13-14‬ ‭AMPC‬‬

He had such compassion for the people who were hungry for Him, though He had the desire to go and be alone but the way He felt for the people who walked the distance to meet Him, He changed His plan and His route.

We may have that where sometimes we really wanna just do things for ourselves but people who need help may come. It’s difficult and sometimes we may feel such deep compassion for those who are going through hard times and difficulty. You are a human, and it’s okay to feel that! You’ve got a heart.

When Jesus had healed them and had fed them, He sent the multitudes away and the disciples too and He went for time alone to pray.

Immediately Jesus made His disciples get into the boat and go before Him to the other side, while He sent the multitudes away. And when He had sent the multitudes away, He went up on the mountain by Himself to pray. Now when evening came, He was alone there.”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭14:22-23‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

So we’ve seen that yes Jesus spent time and helped others, but He also took time for Himself to pray and to be alone with God!

There is no problem seeking balance and sometimes sending the multitudes after helping them. There is no problem in prioritising your time with God, and finding that time to be alone and get the time you need with God.

This was a perfect example to me to share with you that balance is attainable and it is necessary. We can only pour out what is within us and if we don’t spend time going back to God, who can replenish us and fill us again, we can’t give out. In Psalms 23 we see that God leading us into quieter areas can often just be for your refreshing and to give us peace and to show us the right path to take

“He lets me lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside the still and quiet waters. He refreshes and restores my soul (life); He leads me in the paths of righteousness for His name’s sake.”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭23:2-3‬ ‭AMP‬‬

So as a Christian, let’s find balance. Let’s find the ability to prioritise and say yes I will help people at this part, once they are okay I’m going back to the maker and back to God. To spend time, to refresh my soul.

Finding those boundaries and those times where we organise is key not only to our Christian life but in wider life too.

I hope this has helped you! May God bless you x

~ peace , joy & love


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